Allow me to introduce you
I have often contemplated writing an article or starting a blog about my life after my husband was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) approximately five years ago. After watching the recently released movie Split, I recognized how important it was to tell our story to dispel the myths and stigma associated with DID and to promote understanding and compassion overall.
Multiple personalities have been the source of popular entertainment and intrigue for years. The phenomenon is so outside the experience of the average person that the need to try to explain it as supernatural or simply “fake” captures our imagination while ignoring the pain and the abuse from which the disorder originates. The challenges that living as someone or with someone who has multiple personality disorder (MPD) or DID are seldom included as content in our entertainment, further mystifying the reality that makes up every moment of our daily lives.
And so now allow me to share some of that reality…
I introduce to you, my husband:
Dez and I have been married for 26 years and have 11 children together (yes, that’s correct eleven). Our relationship has survived on love, commitment, and reliance on Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. There have been many tears, frustrations, and anger but there have been just as many days of wonder, awe, and strength.
We have identified 19 alters (this is how we refer to the different personalities that share the host’s body). They range in age, gender, and sexual orientation; some believe in God, others do not. Some acknowledge our spousal relationship and the family, others do not. Each alter was formed to attend to a specific task to protect Dez and the overall system. These last five years of therapy have been focused on bringing healing to the alters, co-consciousness, and integration into one personality. We’ve only just begun and I look forward to sharing our journey with you.